Ok, so a lot of people have been giving me shit about my "confession" post a few days ago, saying it was insensitive, and even in some cases going as far as to accuse me of only doing it for publicity, so let me explain the reasoning behind it, and why I posted it here rather than taking a different approach.
I have before had a lot worse done to me than Doyle had done to him, and had anyone that hurt me publicly admitted that they were wrong and apologised, I would have been overjoyed. I don't know if other people would also like that satisfaction, maybe its just me, but to have public proof that I had done nothing wrong I would find reassuring.
Also, before Doyle left I had pretty much no chance to talk to him about all of this. He doesn't want to know what happened, so by sending him a message I would be forcing him to either read or delete it, meaning he would have no oppertunity to change his mind. Or if he opened it, didn't look and left it, but then years later decided out of curiousity he wanted to know, it would be a bitch to find. Whereas now it will have a permanent place and be ordered chronologically in my posts.
Also, in all honestly I feel awful, and I wanted people involved to know the truth, like friends on both sides, and people hearing half the story. I don't know about the rest of you, but for me, keeping that secret from the general public would be like living a lie.
So that's why I decided a blog post would be best. In the end, a blog is supposed to be a diary. If people want their names out, that's perfectly fine. But honestly it would feel like lying to my friends if they didn't know this, it wasn't intended for EVERYONE. I had no idea that many people even go on my facebook, for some of you, criticizing me was the first proper communication you've ever had with me. How nice. You only decide to bother talking to me once I've done something wrong.
Anyway, ranting aside, this may not have been the best way to deal with a situation, but it seemed like a pretty good idea at the time, and it was only written to try and do the right thing and come completely clean.
The post will stay archived on this blog for when Paul decides he wants to know the truth. But links to it from Facebook have been removed.
I have before had a lot worse done to me than Doyle had done to him, and had anyone that hurt me publicly admitted that they were wrong and apologised, I would have been overjoyed. I don't know if other people would also like that satisfaction, maybe its just me, but to have public proof that I had done nothing wrong I would find reassuring.
Also, before Doyle left I had pretty much no chance to talk to him about all of this. He doesn't want to know what happened, so by sending him a message I would be forcing him to either read or delete it, meaning he would have no oppertunity to change his mind. Or if he opened it, didn't look and left it, but then years later decided out of curiousity he wanted to know, it would be a bitch to find. Whereas now it will have a permanent place and be ordered chronologically in my posts.
Also, in all honestly I feel awful, and I wanted people involved to know the truth, like friends on both sides, and people hearing half the story. I don't know about the rest of you, but for me, keeping that secret from the general public would be like living a lie.
So that's why I decided a blog post would be best. In the end, a blog is supposed to be a diary. If people want their names out, that's perfectly fine. But honestly it would feel like lying to my friends if they didn't know this, it wasn't intended for EVERYONE. I had no idea that many people even go on my facebook, for some of you, criticizing me was the first proper communication you've ever had with me. How nice. You only decide to bother talking to me once I've done something wrong.
Anyway, ranting aside, this may not have been the best way to deal with a situation, but it seemed like a pretty good idea at the time, and it was only written to try and do the right thing and come completely clean.
The post will stay archived on this blog for when Paul decides he wants to know the truth. But links to it from Facebook have been removed.
